I still remember the good old days when people were, well, people. Real friendly and talkative. We would pick any topic may it sports or political, we never had to think how they’d be judging us. Dating then seemed pretty challenging yet exciting. Girls would love to be approached by men (they still do, or do they?). They wouldn’t judge us based on our appearances as there was enough time to get to know each other. Speed dating, blind dates and our friend hooking us up with someone they knew, was known as seeing.
Let me tell you a story to relate the consequences of online dating. Once there was a guy, well suited and strongly formed. Decent enough yet full of surprises. He rode his car for almost 40 miles to meet a girl. They were to go on their first date. Someone mutual introduced them to each other. He arrived the front door of the house. The girl came outside but it was raining heavily. The guy ran towards her with an umbrella to shade her from the rains to the passenger seat of the car. They drove to a classy restaurant, they ate what they equally agreed upon. They finished their meal and guy paid for it and drove her back home. Even accompanied to her porch before parting their ways with a good night kiss. The adventure went on for a couple of months eventually leading them to marriage and a few years later a kid and again a few years later another kid, living happily ever and after.
The story might feel similar to older people as they have lived the era and probably have witnessed such stories in person but, to the 21st century and younger generation kids it may seem pretty alien and that is obvious as they live in a world where dating is only Tinder, Truly madly or Zoosk. The civilization has been progressing rapidly easing human lives with various change and technology. We started getting very much depended on it, and with the dawn of the cyber world, it got more interesting. It had its perks but, the so technology that we used to shorten gaps among us somehow, pushed us a far.
If it is not all true than most of it must be. During my job in National Capital, I used to take the metro to work and back home. The stuffed coaches had everything yet I felt that every single one of them is somehow pretending and yet lonely. Hundreds of people and no one engaging in any sort of conversation and it was not a just one-day incident, in fact, if somehow someone communicated by fault he’d be surrounded by eyes. Talking was not prohibited nor there was any contamination. Just lost in cyber world. Probably they have forgotten the values which make us so human, which puts us on top of the life cycle. Possibly that is why old is considered gold because in the modern crowd it still has those morals those ideals and ethics, embraced in itself.
You all must have heard a common phrase, ‘fake it to make it.’ The context has been used pretty extensively in space of online dating. The more you fake your profile, the more your chances of getting someone. It can include your creative bio, what you do and how handsome you are. The story doesn’t end there, if you are about average looking, forget the chance of hooking up with anyone. (Not being racist or sexist or any ‘ist’ here, it is just true, consult science). The main purpose to build an online dating platform was to make it easy providing many possible matches. Instead, it complicated the already bad scenario causing more short term relationship in search for better. The never-ending desire and easiness to find someone new has taken over the ideals ruining the bonds.
Earlier, it was all about collecting guts before calling the one and asking them out on a date and a whole lot of tactics and largely fair amount of pride to turn it into a success story. In today’s world, it is more like job hunting where you prepare a resume and go out looking at multiple places in hopes of landing somewhere. What we see and hear around are all boons of technology invading emotions. I have heard little kids of ages no more than 12-14 year ages crying their heart out in the wake of their recent breakup. When we were of that age probably did not even know how to make an e-mail account. The amount of emotion we are losing has severe consequences. One of them being emotionally unavailable, distrust and infidelity. Eventually, leading to depression.
It has taken over the healthy style of dating and imprinted it with phone calls, text, emails, Facebook and instant messaging services. The digital stand has occurred another problem of stalking. A study revealed that Facebook, twitter and WhatsApp and other workalike internet apps are causing way lot more break-ups pushing the youth into a depressing abyss.
It is time, we change the way we look at each other, the ground on which we critic people and how we are chasing charm. It is time, we stop judging someone based on the appearances. Reviving the communication is all depending on us. Let us stop being a stranger to each other and bring back the time when people were, people. You know what it means, right?